Dreams
from My Father: A Story of Race and Inheritance
An entirely honest book on race, cultural differences, social
status, religion, traditions and most
importantly sense of belonging to more
than one place.
by
Fatos SIMSEK
A few months ago a German friend began
reading this book written by Barack Obama,
the Democratic senator from Illinois.
I asked her why she opted for a book written
by a politician which I thought would
be a constant attention beggar if not
boring. She said that she admires the
democrat leader besides the book has a
lot to do with cultural differences. After
a while, I came across with the book at
a local bookstore. Despite the fact that
the front cover had some family pictures
to make the book more forthcoming, it
still looked somehow serious to me. After
a brief hesitation I purchased it. I finished
the book quickly and am glad that I read
an entirely honest book on race, cultural
differences, social status, religion,
traditions and most importantly sense
of belonging to more than one place. The
latter one, throughout the book, in fact
loaded me up with tremendous amount of
insight on where I fell right in. I unquestionably
recommend it to those who were born in
a particular setting and relocated in
another part of the world and are now
living the "divided life" style
just the way it's described in the book.
I was able to relate the stories as a
Turkish-American who is living in the
States while her roots are laying in Turkey.
His African father and white American, extremely self-preserved,
mother had a brief marriage back in 60's.
He wrote of his mother as a reserved,
attentive and well-educated woman who
encouraged him gain his social and racial
identity and be what he wanted to be in
life. When his father finished studying
in America, he returned to Africa leaving
Barack and his mother behind with her
parents. Growing up without a father seemed
to hurt him all through his boyhood maybe
even during his adulthood. The moment
I began reading the book I appreciated
the grandparents' behavior, though, for
never letting down the African father
in front of his son. It was heart breaking
knowing an interracial boy sorting through
life-size worries and handling them courageously
with or without help of grandparents.
No matter what, the grandparents loved
the young Obama dearly, nourished him
and provided him with life skills.
I am not totally against the fact that his grandfather kept calling
him Barry instead of Barack while he lived
with them in Hawaii. Especially back in
those days life must have been way too
hard for a mixed-cultured individual.
I do understand the concern and I have
called my OWN self with a couple of more
Americanized first names in order to have
the ordinary first impression. The idea of calling him with a more familiar
American name than an African one might
have made young Barack fit in and not
so much stand out.
Later in life he embraced his own
name, Barack, which means "blessed"
in Arabic.
His inspiring life story began in Hawaii, followed by a fulfilling
and enjoyable habitation in Indonesia
with his mother and stepfather and later
back in the States. The comparison between the lives of Indonesians and poor blacks back home, also later during his
Kenya visit, the resemblance between an
ordinary Kenyan and poor blacks' way of living in Chicago were distinctly observed and profoundly
well written.
He was just to-the-point in writing his community organizing works
in Chicago. He sectioned out lives of
blacks in relation to blacks, whites,
changing society, and religion. It was
all very clear that the color of one's
skin may very well be the determinant
of how one lives his or her life. The
author, certainly well fed the reader
in reflecting societal shortcomings due
to racial differences while honestly sharing
all the racial bias situations that he
came across during his community organizing
period and hoping to help eradicate racism,
poverty and corruption from Chicago.
His Kenya trip was full of relatives, siblings, unfamiliar faces
and places. He began discovering his great
grandfather all the way down to his own
father and lots of traditions in a mere
couple of weeks. This trip has its own heavy philosophy
in which he looked closely into the mode
his elders had lived their lives weaved
into sets of strong beliefs and traditions.
The more he learned about his ancestors
the more he became familiar with his own.
More and more he realized that his father,
the Old Man, lived a "divided life"
all through his life and consequently
he felt perhaps living like Kenyan in
the States and American in Kenya! This
fact was no stranger to me either! As
a person coming from a distinctive culture
along with a set of traditions and beliefs,
after so many years, I am still trying
to weave my foreign upbringing with American
way in the context of mainstream lifestyle
while raising two beautiful children trying
not to deviate too much from the mother
culture.
It is somehow comforting to find out how some beliefs can be common
throughout the place. One
that I liked to share now took me back
to my childhood which, without a doubt,
must have known in a similar way in other
parts of the world as well. Here it goes:
In Turkey, most of us grew up hearing
"Cici cocuk olmazsan oculer
seni goturur". In Turkish it means "If you
dont behave, the scary creatures will
come get you". This is the
type of fear message most of my generation
received growing up back home. The similar
axiom in this book is about "night
runners" in Kenya. Those fearsome
beings would be very active at complete
darkness and would come get those not-so-nice
people; be it kids, elders, women or men.
In a way this book helped me come to terms in uncovering my own
foreignness in the land that I am living
presently while painfully helped me discover
the irony of now feeling foreign to my
homeland.
This book could easily find audience among very diverse populations
such as interracials, internationalists,
African Americans, legislators, historians,
travelers, self-helpers and spiritualists.
For those of you who are into community
organizing work, do consider getting a
good grasp of this book. Mr. Barack Obama
is an intelligent and talented public
servant full of brilliant ideas who is
indeed readily inspirational with his
beautifully painted mixed-cultural background.
I first and foremost recommend this book to those individuals who
have been living a "divided life"
like myself.
"Oh, Father, I cried. There was no shame in your confusion.
Just as there had been no shame in your
father's before you. No shame in the fear,
or in the fear of his father before him.
There was only shame in the silence fear
had produced. It was the silence that
betrayed us. If it weren't for that silence,
your grandfather might have told your
father that he could never escape himself,
or re-create himself alone. Your father
might have taught those same lessons to
you. And you, the son, might have taught
your father that this new world that was
beckoning all of you involved more than
just railroads, and indoor toilets, and
irrigation ditches, and gramophones, lifeless
instruments that could be absorbed into
the old ways. You might have told him
that these instruments carried with them
a dangerous power, that they demanded
a different way of seeing the world. That
this power could be absorbed only alongside
a faith born out of hardship, a faith
that wasn't new, that wasn't black or
white or Christian or Muslim but that
pulsed in the heart of the first African
village and the first Kansas homestead
- a faith in other people." (Page
429)
Enjoy.
Fatos Simsek, November 2005, Raleigh, NC
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